If you'll kindly refer back to my very first post, "Take Me Out," the other two girls that make up our terrific trio (Blaire and Kayla) never fail to find adventure. It wouldn't be a far stretch from the truth to compare us to the Three Amigos. Or the Three Musketeers. Or the Three Girls Who Are Trying to Survive a Singles Ward. That's catchy, don't you think?
Here's what went wrong:
3. Roderigo insisted repeatedly that they go off alone together, despite her firm "no" in response to each request.
4. Roderigo required that Blaire return him to his apartment, naturally without any inclination to offer gas money or anything else in exchange.
5. Roderigo refused to exit Blaire's car upon arrival at his destination, ignoring the texts from her mother indicating that she was already out past her curfew.
6. Roderigo is a sneaky fiend. He asked her for a hug and instead held onto her face and planted one right on that girl's mouth! She had to push him off and tell him it was time to get out.
Now, to the young men (and the old men, for that matter): please, please, PLEASE do not be a Roderigo! If a girl says no, it usually means no. And if she happens to be the kind where no means yes and yes means no and maybe means absolutely and buttons mean fluffy kittens, then honey, she's not worth your time. You'll just have to deal with it. Have decency and respect, and don't ever be the kind of boy who might be mentioned in a blog post like this one. Unless you're the knight in shining armor who saves the day. Who, in this case, was unfortunately not present. There's another tip. Punctuality.
Girls, here it is. How To Avoid Creepers 101:
Unfortunately, you can follow all these steps to a T and still find yourself dodging crazies left and right (take, for example, our Miss Blaire). In this case, if all else fails, stand back and quickly assess the situation. Is it actually as big a deal as you're making it out to be? If not (like if he's a really nice guy, just maybe not as attractive or entertaining as you expected him to be), you may just have to sit tight and try to laugh about it until it's over and done with. If it is, however, potentially dangerous - in any way, even to your reputation or emotions - get out, immediately. The moment you feel like something bad could happen - EVEN a stupid kiss, if you don't want one - is the moment you need to retreat. And then thank your lucky stars you did! And just be cautious as a general rule of thumb. If a guy gives you a weird feeling, you aren't obligated to keep him around.
The same goes for boys! If a girl makes you uncomfortable, give her the boot! I mean it. If I weren't compatible with someone or I freaked him out, I would most certainly want him to let me know. There's no use in holding onto people who create a toxic environment for you. Always be kind, but don't be a pushover. One of my favorite teachers always told his classes to not "mistake kindness for weakness." Some girls did just that, and it didn't turn out happily ever after.
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| What a catch! |
Our Big Date (the one that started this whole addictive blog thing) was a lot of fun, lighthearted, essentially a one-time thing, right? ...wrong. Well, I've successfully avoided getting re-hit-upon, but that stunning Blaire just can't escape it! Kayla and I were positive that Alex was going to ask our pal to elope, or at least go out again. He did hint at asking her out again, but nothing really came of it. Alas, it seems as though she struck another young man's fancy (we'll call him Roderigo for his sake). He was unbelievably persistent in his attempts to "get together" with her sometime, and although she swears - and oh, do we trust her - that she was valiant in her efforts to let him know that she is completely disinterested in him, he finally wore the poor girl down to the point where she obliged to have him tag along to a friend's party. No offense to Blaire, but I think all would agree with me when I shout, "LARGE MISTAKE, GIRLFRIEND."
Here's what went wrong:
1. Roderigo lives 20 minutes in the opposite direction of the party. However, he required that Blaire pick him up and transport him to the event.
2. Roderigo was by her side the entirety of the night, giving her no room to breathe or socialize with others.3. Roderigo insisted repeatedly that they go off alone together, despite her firm "no" in response to each request.
4. Roderigo required that Blaire return him to his apartment, naturally without any inclination to offer gas money or anything else in exchange.
5. Roderigo refused to exit Blaire's car upon arrival at his destination, ignoring the texts from her mother indicating that she was already out past her curfew.
6. Roderigo is a sneaky fiend. He asked her for a hug and instead held onto her face and planted one right on that girl's mouth! She had to push him off and tell him it was time to get out.
Now, to the young men (and the old men, for that matter): please, please, PLEASE do not be a Roderigo! If a girl says no, it usually means no. And if she happens to be the kind where no means yes and yes means no and maybe means absolutely and buttons mean fluffy kittens, then honey, she's not worth your time. You'll just have to deal with it. Have decency and respect, and don't ever be the kind of boy who might be mentioned in a blog post like this one. Unless you're the knight in shining armor who saves the day. Who, in this case, was unfortunately not present. There's another tip. Punctuality.
Girls, here it is. How To Avoid Creepers 101:
1. Treat yourself with respect. This means real respect, not vanity. If you don't respect yourself, you can't expect respect from a single other human being. I think all of the following guidelines fall under this umbrella.
2. Dress modestly and tastefully. You don't have to be wearing a pioneer dress every time you walk out your front door, but cover your body appropriately. And if you're on a date, don't wear freakin' pajamas! Gosh darn it! They always say you should leave something to the imagination.
3. If I might add, you should also try not to necessarily encourage too much of that imagination. This means don't use vulgar speech or foul language. If you'd like a young man to treat you like a young lady, then by all means you may as well act like a young lady.
4. Be genuine and confident. It's not all that hard to spot a fake. And if you're insecure, go RIGHT NOW to the nearest mirror, take a deeeep breath, look yourself in the eye, and say, "I am beautiful." Because no matter what anyone in this world may tell you, you are beautiful and so worth it. My wonderful mother taught me this trick, and it has rescued me on countless occasions. Make a habit of saying it and meaning it, especially when you don't have makeup on.
Unfortunately, you can follow all these steps to a T and still find yourself dodging crazies left and right (take, for example, our Miss Blaire). In this case, if all else fails, stand back and quickly assess the situation. Is it actually as big a deal as you're making it out to be? If not (like if he's a really nice guy, just maybe not as attractive or entertaining as you expected him to be), you may just have to sit tight and try to laugh about it until it's over and done with. If it is, however, potentially dangerous - in any way, even to your reputation or emotions - get out, immediately. The moment you feel like something bad could happen - EVEN a stupid kiss, if you don't want one - is the moment you need to retreat. And then thank your lucky stars you did! And just be cautious as a general rule of thumb. If a guy gives you a weird feeling, you aren't obligated to keep him around.
The same goes for boys! If a girl makes you uncomfortable, give her the boot! I mean it. If I weren't compatible with someone or I freaked him out, I would most certainly want him to let me know. There's no use in holding onto people who create a toxic environment for you. Always be kind, but don't be a pushover. One of my favorite teachers always told his classes to not "mistake kindness for weakness." Some girls did just that, and it didn't turn out happily ever after.
Happy surviving!
Oh goodness, I adore your blog! :)
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