"I am just a little girl who's looking for a little boy who's looking for a girl to love."
Alright, I've got this all figured out. The features that will continue henceforth on Oh, My Darling are Beauty Tuesdays, Soulful Sundays, and my newest addition, Thoughtful Thursdays. For the most part, these categories leave plenty of room for interpretation but grant me safety from excessive rambling.
Dictionary.com is a good friend of mine, especially when I'm in need of something out of the ordinary. The reference site posts daily words and quotes, and Thursday's quote was the one up there beneath that cute picture. No, it isn't philosophical. And at a first glance, of course you wouldn't think about it twice. This simple phrase introduces the whimsical piece, "Looking for a Boy," originally written by George and Ira Gershwin in 1926. Though it's been widely covered, my favorite version belongs to the phenomenal Ella Fitzgerald.
Here are my thoughts on this sentence. Every time I catch up with an old friend, regardless of age or position in my life, the question is inevitably raised as to whether or not I'm seeing anyone. This is a fair enough detail to be taken into consideration, seeing as I've held the statuses of girlfriend and forever single and just about everything in between. The truth is, I myself have never been notably fond of the active pursuit of romantic relationships. Granted, once a romantic relationship stumbles over my pinky toe, I'm not going to slam the door in its face. I'm just not walking around barefoot with my head stuck in the clouds.
I'm told many different things by many different people regarding this decision, or lack thereof. Some may support me in living my life one step at a time and allowing things to run their course, while others feel the pressing need to ascertain that I am not suffering from depression or any similar disorder. I also find that often certain people will stand by my side for the wrong reasons, thinking I'm sticking it to the man by not conforming to the local phenomenon that involves every kid and their dog getting a boyfriend or girlfriend moments after tossing that tasseled cap in the air. That's just silly. Praise me as a lone wolf or mock me as a lonely fool, but I know there are plenty of individuals like me who have mastered the art of preserving joy in rain or shine.
Curse me for sounding cliché, but I'm okay with anyone and everyone who chooses to act otherwise! Today at work I had the privilege of meeting an adorable woman with whom I struck up a conversation. Said conversation wound up on the precarious (not to mention hilarious) lines of her requesting that I go out with her son sometime. To her daughter's embarrassed "Mmmooommmm...what are you doing?" she exasperatedly responded, "You know what, honey? We have got to be actively helping him find a wife!" Now, this was all in lighthearted fun, but I can respect a mother's concern for her darling boy's future welfare. From her description he seems to hold a standpoint akin to mine, which may come in handy.
I believe each person retains the right to date in whichever fashion he or she so desires. Without question I assert that there are indeed more effective methods than others to reach any particular goal, but there is no exact formula for achieving precisely what one hopes for. Some are serial daters - a girl might have boyfriend after boyfriend after another extra-special-this-one's-different-just-like-all-the-rest boyfriend - while others care only to dip in a few digits at a time and grant a kiss on the cheek every several months to extremely rare exceptions. Neither type is at terrible fault; however, the serial dater's tactics are ever so slightly more likely to land her in trouble than those of the timid mouse.
Girls, if you're looking for a boy, more power to you. You've heard this a thousand times, but you truly must strive toward becoming a likeness of that person you seek. If you want a smart man, educate yourself. If you want someone who will take care of you and treat you well, look for ways to care for others and be of service. Boys, if you're looking for a girl, read the sentence I just wrote to the girls, and then find one of them and get to know her. Birds of a feather flock together!
For those who want to stay single for awhile, it's cool. You aren't obligated to fall in love until it's right. Just know that eventually it will be to your great advantage to team up with someone who makes you happier than you thought you could be.
And for my fellow Whatevers, I hope you're not just being apathetic. The way I see it, I'll always be improving myself in preparation for the day when I do cross paths with my most unforgettable gentleman, even if I don't have my Husband Radar tuned in just yet. The important aspect to remember when "living in the moment" is to make the most of where you are and what you're doing at all times. Be up for and accepting of anything, and you'll be happy with the outcome.
Dictionary.com is a good friend of mine, especially when I'm in need of something out of the ordinary. The reference site posts daily words and quotes, and Thursday's quote was the one up there beneath that cute picture. No, it isn't philosophical. And at a first glance, of course you wouldn't think about it twice. This simple phrase introduces the whimsical piece, "Looking for a Boy," originally written by George and Ira Gershwin in 1926. Though it's been widely covered, my favorite version belongs to the phenomenal Ella Fitzgerald.
Here are my thoughts on this sentence. Every time I catch up with an old friend, regardless of age or position in my life, the question is inevitably raised as to whether or not I'm seeing anyone. This is a fair enough detail to be taken into consideration, seeing as I've held the statuses of girlfriend and forever single and just about everything in between. The truth is, I myself have never been notably fond of the active pursuit of romantic relationships. Granted, once a romantic relationship stumbles over my pinky toe, I'm not going to slam the door in its face. I'm just not walking around barefoot with my head stuck in the clouds.
I'm told many different things by many different people regarding this decision, or lack thereof. Some may support me in living my life one step at a time and allowing things to run their course, while others feel the pressing need to ascertain that I am not suffering from depression or any similar disorder. I also find that often certain people will stand by my side for the wrong reasons, thinking I'm sticking it to the man by not conforming to the local phenomenon that involves every kid and their dog getting a boyfriend or girlfriend moments after tossing that tasseled cap in the air. That's just silly. Praise me as a lone wolf or mock me as a lonely fool, but I know there are plenty of individuals like me who have mastered the art of preserving joy in rain or shine.
Curse me for sounding cliché, but I'm okay with anyone and everyone who chooses to act otherwise! Today at work I had the privilege of meeting an adorable woman with whom I struck up a conversation. Said conversation wound up on the precarious (not to mention hilarious) lines of her requesting that I go out with her son sometime. To her daughter's embarrassed "Mmmooommmm...what are you doing?" she exasperatedly responded, "You know what, honey? We have got to be actively helping him find a wife!" Now, this was all in lighthearted fun, but I can respect a mother's concern for her darling boy's future welfare. From her description he seems to hold a standpoint akin to mine, which may come in handy.
I believe each person retains the right to date in whichever fashion he or she so desires. Without question I assert that there are indeed more effective methods than others to reach any particular goal, but there is no exact formula for achieving precisely what one hopes for. Some are serial daters - a girl might have boyfriend after boyfriend after another extra-special-this-one's-different-just-like-all-the-rest boyfriend - while others care only to dip in a few digits at a time and grant a kiss on the cheek every several months to extremely rare exceptions. Neither type is at terrible fault; however, the serial dater's tactics are ever so slightly more likely to land her in trouble than those of the timid mouse.
Girls, if you're looking for a boy, more power to you. You've heard this a thousand times, but you truly must strive toward becoming a likeness of that person you seek. If you want a smart man, educate yourself. If you want someone who will take care of you and treat you well, look for ways to care for others and be of service. Boys, if you're looking for a girl, read the sentence I just wrote to the girls, and then find one of them and get to know her. Birds of a feather flock together!
For those who want to stay single for awhile, it's cool. You aren't obligated to fall in love until it's right. Just know that eventually it will be to your great advantage to team up with someone who makes you happier than you thought you could be.
And for my fellow Whatevers, I hope you're not just being apathetic. The way I see it, I'll always be improving myself in preparation for the day when I do cross paths with my most unforgettable gentleman, even if I don't have my Husband Radar tuned in just yet. The important aspect to remember when "living in the moment" is to make the most of where you are and what you're doing at all times. Be up for and accepting of anything, and you'll be happy with the outcome.
Happy looking!
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